Hello, dear readers, I hope you are doing very well. Most of us once heard the adage, “Better bad known, than good to know.” And at first glance it may seem very logical, but in the world of psychology logic is not always the truth. It is that that false security that we experience in the famous comfort zone, is nothing more than a security mechanism of our mind that seeks to minimize the threats posed by living an unknown and potentially dangerous experience; both physically and emotionally. And this is how we end up stuck in lives that, although they do not have greater shocks, have low levels of satisfaction. We perceive this in the medium and long term as boredom, annoyance; which will lead to lack of motivation. These symptoms should alert us to the changes that are necessary in life, and ask the big question: Are we really living the life we dream of? Understanding dreams as that projection of ourselves in space-time, motivated by those personal passions, those activities that reflect our identity in its purest form. But the problem lies in a personal tragedy; many when we manifested those dreams were judged with negative phrases and beliefs about them, neutering our free expression in a very subtle way. And since these ideas in childhood come from authority figures such as dad and mom, our brain and more precise, our young Super yo; that psychological entity that seeks the greatest social approval, to improve our adaptation and improve our chances of survival by being a solidly accepted member by the great herd of society.
It is right there that our Self weakens, and we begin to live for others, leaving aside in a dark corner of our mind, our true identity, dreams and higher beliefs. We copy the “formula” of happiness and if we look at the statistics, it is very ineffective in achieving the famous happiness, which seeing the growing data of childhood depression, increasingly fails us at younger ages. So, how to overcome social pressure? How to rise to the instinctive impulses of not taking risks? It is easy to fall into this trap for security. The road may sound reckless, but it is one of the ways:
1. Define what you love, identify your dreams, beyond what they expect from you. Take calculated risks, analyze the pros and cons of your reality and in an objective way based on the facts, venture into that new path.
2. Strengthen your self-esteem, if you don't believe in yourself, you will have to believe that others are THE WAY, and what worked for a person will not necessarily work for us.
3. Overcome the fear of failure, if you fail you become a survivor, knowing that you will not die for trying something and failing, you are one step closer to success. Don't you think about it? Analyze, if you know what didn't work in that project, you already know WHAT NOT TO DO next time.
4. With these guidelines, I do not mean that it is the only way, but it will surely give you the basis to generate your plan of emancipation from the culture of fear; expand your consciousness and change the comfort zone for the area of happiness. That place where your identity flourishes and thrives day by day.
